All too often you see the books about the “Overworked Woman”… the woman overwhelmed and stressed because she is balancing life as a mom, a wife and a professional. Far too often we neglect to recognize the single women in positions of “power” that may not have children, or a husband, or a significant other… and it is seemingly believed that we are the ones that have it easier because we have “less” on our plates. As a female Athletic Director, I’m often hinted at, as to how much easier it must be for me not to have to worry about how many hours I work since I don’t have a family at home… As if a family is the only thing that defines a woman.
I am a woman in a position of power. I am a woman with needs. I would love to have someone to come home to in the evenings. Someone to briefly talk to about my day… but then someone to remind me that work isn’t all there is to life… Someone that reminds me I AM a priority… regardless of how others treat me or what others expect of me.
When they tell you to make sure you’re putting your oxygen mask on first… Single women, they’re talking to us too! We are just as important. Our lives have just as much value. We bring just as much, if not more, to the table. A husband does not define you. CHILDREN do not define you. Owning a house does NOT define you. Society’s definition of a woman’s role is just as skewed now as it was 50 years ago. So WE need to remember to remind one another that we are just as valuable. That we bring just as much to the table, if not more. And while no, we may not NEED a significant other, it’s nice to know that someone out there values you too.
It starts with me. I need to remind myself that I AM a priority. I DESERVE to focus on myself. I have EARNED that level of respect. I am my toughest critic. I must also be my balance.